Thinking About Divorce
So, you are thinking about divorce. It's always a trying time when you think your marriage may be coming to an end. Many, if not most, couples end up splitting long before ''til death do they part." So, remember you are certainly not alone. Even marriages that do survive will have moments when one or both of the spouses will consider divorce. Hopefully, that will be the case for you, but you should keep in mind that there is life and happiness after divorce, even when it is very difficult to imagine right now.
Our Role as Your Attorney in a Divorce
As attorneys, our job is not to provide you with marriage counseling. Likewise, we neither encourage nor discourage you from seeking a divorce. That is among the most important of decisions. It is yours to make and yours alone, but the decision should be made with strong experienced legal counsel guiding you through the process. Simply put, our job is to give you the best legal advice we can for you and your family, to present you with all your legal options, and to represent your interests zealously, without judgment.
When to See A Divorce Lawyer?
We strongly advise anyone considering divorce to meet with us as soon as possible. Too often, we see a new divorce client who wants to file for divorce immediately or has already been served with divorce papers. While we can certainly handle those immediate needs, the clients' legal options would likely have been better had the client consulted with us long before the decision to seek divorce was made. Preparing will almost always give you a better result and sometimes the reasons the client wants a divorce could be rectified by a solution other than divorce, such as legal separation, or post-nuptial agreements for example.
Ideally, the time to seek a consultation is when you believe divorce is a mere possibility rather than a certainty, perhaps even sooner. We would review your financial information, listen to your unique family situation, advise you on your legal rights in terms of property division, parenting issues, ongoing support etc., and counsel you on the steps we recommend you consider to put yourself in the most favorable position in the event you decide to move forward with a divorce.
One situation where we would likely advise clients to consider immediate action is when there has been violence or abuse in the family. If your spouse is violent , abusive, controlling, suffers from mental illness, or has a chemical addiction, the safety of you and your children should be your first priority. Even if you are also a victim, you have a duty to protect your children from abuses of the other parent.
It is not unusual for abusers to manipulate their victims. Their behavior may seem normal or the victim may even feel that the fault is theirs. If this is happening in your family, or even if you think it might be, you need to break that abusive cycle to protect yourself and your children. If this is happening to you, contact us immediately to discuss your options or if you are in immediate danger contact the police.
Meet with an Attorney
Every case is unique. Divorce and family law attorney David Chowins would be happy to meet with you to discuss your particular situation. Call 469-630-2550 to set up a consultation. Often he can meet with you the same day or arrange an immediate telephone consultation.